Behaviour isn't you. But it is how other people measure you.
Different people measure people differently based on their standards.
Therefore, you can choose to behave according to other people's standards to get what you want from them.
Or.
You can choose to surround yourself with people of the same standards who understand your values, motivations, speech and actions.
Or.
You can choose to share your values and motivations with others to better help them understand, and ask others about their values and motivations to better understand them.
Or.
You can choose to teach others your values and motivations so that they, too, will believe what you believe and want what you want.
Or.
Just complain.
Different people measure people differently based on their standards.
Therefore, you can choose to behave according to other people's standards to get what you want from them.
Or.
You can choose to surround yourself with people of the same standards who understand your values, motivations, speech and actions.
Or.
You can choose to share your values and motivations with others to better help them understand, and ask others about their values and motivations to better understand them.
Or.
You can choose to teach others your values and motivations so that they, too, will believe what you believe and want what you want.
Or.
Just complain.
